Category Archives: Advice

Ask A Therapist: On Overparenting and Helping a Friend Get Counseling

Counselors Roy Fisher and Liz Covey answer two questions each month for South Seattle Emerald’s “Ask A Therapist.” Have a question about a relationship? Wondering about the struggles of being a parent? Others likely have the same questions and Covey and Fisher bring years of professional experience to provide their insights.

This month, readers asked the Emerald about helping a partner or friend get counseling or therapy they may need and about how to tell when we are over-parenting our children.

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BEYOND SMALL TALK — New Year’s Resolution: Conduct a Passiveness Audit

by Julie Pham

Imagine you are on a bus in the middle of winter. Someone has his window open and all the people around him are shivering. Yet, no one says anything even though all are thinking, “This guy should close this window!” Instead of acting, everyone continues to sit in the cold, resentful and silent.

Imagine a new coworker has joined the team. Someone asks, “What do you like to do in your free time?” She responds, “I like to read my Bible.” Awkwardness falls over the group, most of whom haven’t been to a religious institution in years, if ever. Instead of acknowledging her response, the topic is quickly changed.

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Dear Fellow 2018 Graduates…

by Gracie Bucklew

[This story was originally the Valedictorian speech at The Center School’s 2018 graduation ceremony on June 20. It has been lightly edited for clarity.]

As the end of eighth grade grew closer, I was filled with trepidation for what the next four years might bring. I fantasized about failing all my classes on purpose so I’d have to stay at South Shore PreK-8. But that wouldn’t work because the rest of my class would be gone, and I’d have to make friends with the seventh graders.

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Dear The Beauster: Honey Badger Progressives Are Pouncing On Me

by Beau Hebert

Dear The Beauster,

I was recently at a party where I was nearly crucified for questioning the wisdom of some of the Seattle City Council’s newly proposed tax measures. I am a registered Democrat and consider myself quite Liberal, but apparently not Liberal enough for Seattle. Despite the fact that I have an MBA and a strong understanding of economics, should I keep my mouth shut on these issues to avoid being likened to Donald Trump and persecuted by Honey Badger Progressives?

Sincerely,

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Dear The Beauster: My Son Has Zero Ambition

by Beau Hebert 

Dear The Beauster,

I genuinely dislike my son. He’s fourteen and thinks he’s king of the world. He’s lazy, insensitive and rude. All he does is stay cooped up in his room smoking marijuana, listening to loud music. He gets terrible grades and has nothing but disdain for everyone, especially me. When I ask him what he wants to be as an adult he says things like, “serial killer,” or “crackhead.” His father is long gone, so I’m left to deal with him on my own. He refuses to receive counseling and is basically ruining my life. Any advice? Continue reading Dear The Beauster: My Son Has Zero Ambition

Dear the Beauster: My Partner is Suffering From Birthday Narcissism

by Beau Hebert

Dear The Beauster,

I’ve been dating a guy for almost six months and things were really cool until July, or what he refers to as his “Birthday Month.” Suddenly, it became all about him and he pretty much demanded that everyone buy him drinks and presents and dinner, compliment him a bunch and throw multiple parties in his honor. I’m happy to make a big deal of someone on their actual birthday, but for a whole month? Really?

Sincerely,

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Dear The Beauster: I Can’t Stand My Husband’s Third-Person References Anymore!

by Beau Hebert

 

Dear The Beauster,

My husband, a proud alumnus of the University of Washington, recently started referring to himself in the third person as “Dave The Dawg.” I fully support his Husky pride, but find it annoying when, for example, I ask him how he’s doing and he replies, “Dave The Dawg is all right.” His friends have also said they pretty much hate it when he says things like, “Dave The Dawg wants to bitch-slap these refs!” or “Dave The Dawg needs a brewski.” As “Dear The Beauster,” you are renowned for referencing yourself in the third person. Can you share any coping mechanisms your wife uses in dealing with your whole third-person referencing thing? Continue reading Dear The Beauster: I Can’t Stand My Husband’s Third-Person References Anymore!