Category Archives: Voices

Dear The Beauster

by Beau Hebert

Dispatches from Jude’s Old Town:

Jude’s Old Town, Rainier Beach’s family-friendly neighborhood bar, is also the de facto headquarters of South Seattle’s hard-hitting journalism scene. Its dispatches consist of a random quote overheard at the bar and the advice column “Dear The Beauster,” in which Beau, the owner of Jude’s, serves up no-nonsense advice along with a prescription from the pharmacy at Jude’s Old Town. Continue reading Dear The Beauster

Six Reasons to Stay Active This Summer

by Emily Williamson

Photo Credit: Emily Williamson
Photo Credit: Emily Williamson

For many Northwest residents, summer is the season we head outside to work and play. At Rainier Health & Fitness, we see less of our members in June, July and August who update us in the fall with stories like “I’ve been busy gardening” or “I skipped my workouts to run/walk around Seward Park.” While we applaud getting active in the great outdoors, we still recommend rounding out your fitness routine with regular gym visits. Here’s why: Continue reading Six Reasons to Stay Active This Summer

Changing Perceptions of Our Community Begins From the Inside

by Maia Segura and Daimian Lix

(The following is a transcript of a speech given at the Rainier Chamber of Commerce in recognition of excellence in business and community  practices within the Southeast Seattle area.)

Daimian and myself are truly so honored for the Rainier Chamber of Commerce, 2015 Business of the Year Award.

First I wanted to say that we get a lot of questions about our name: Penniless Projects. No, it does not mean that we work for free, as some of you may have hoped (although, truthfully we end up doing more of that than we let on). Continue reading Changing Perceptions of Our Community Begins From the Inside

The South Seattle Narrative: We Are the Stories We Tell Ourselves

by Dominique Scalia

Dominique addresses the crowd at the Emerald's one-year anniversary party. Photo Credit: Celia Berk
Dominique (Madam President) addresses the crowd at the Emerald’s one-year anniversary party. Photo Credit: Celia Berk

More than a year ago, I sat looking at Marcus Green from behind a beer at Rookie’s in Columbia City, listening to a pitch for what would become the South Seattle Emerald. He had already shown me a little of what he could do when we worked together on another project. But when he asked me to help him start a non-profit publication in South Seattle, I did not understand what it could mean for Marcus Green to truly live his vision of community-based journalism. All I knew was that Marcus was a wonderful writer and a talented and diligent interviewer, and that the people in this community had a story to tell that was not being told by any other publication. That was enough to get us started. Continue reading The South Seattle Narrative: We Are the Stories We Tell Ourselves

Talk to Wendy (Love: The Good, The Bad, The Incredulous)

Wendy Olsen, MFT

Q: I’ve been with my wife for going on 13 year now. I love her, but to be honest I’ve never been in love with her.  Our marriage was somewhat out of necessity. I’ve spent the last 4 year trying to end things. We’ve had separations during that time and she’s even caught me a few different times with other women. However, no matter what she want let me leave.

Continue reading Talk to Wendy (Love: The Good, The Bad, The Incredulous)

Seattle Real Estate Forecast: Sellers Rejoice, Buyers Lament

by Dorothy Driver

Seattle/King County Real Estate values have rebounded from the Great Corruption/Recession which began in 2008; some analysts are reporting that prices have returned to what they were in the peek market of 2007. Seattle Metropolitan neighborhood values increased sharply last year and the upward trend continues. Continue reading Seattle Real Estate Forecast: Sellers Rejoice, Buyers Lament

“And the Youth Will Lead Us”: Community Transformation and Absenteeism

by Marcus Harrison Green

Usually, finding yourself in a high school classroom as someone in your thirties while “peers” half your age run mental circles around you is a glaring signifier you’ve made a succession of disastrous choices in life, but on January 22nd – as I played the part of a wilted bud planted amongst sophomores and juniors, squirming in his seat, too scared to be called on to give an answer to a barely absorbed question – there didn’t seem a better place for a South End native to be. Continue reading “And the Youth Will Lead Us”: Community Transformation and Absenteeism

Talk to Wendy: Our Realtionship Expert Tells It Like It Is

by Wendy Olsen, MFT

Q:  I’ve recently begun a relationship that couldn’t be better. He is everything that I need in a partner: complimentary, compassionate, and extremely intelligent. However, the but is that he is thirty years my junior. I’m the kind of person who usually doesn’t allow what others think to bother me, but it has become difficult to not be affected by the stares and snickers people give us when we go out. I have actually begun to avoid public outings with him altogether out of embarrassment. This has of course put somewhat of a strain in our relationship. I really think that what we have is love, but there is a part of me who can’t put it out of my head  that I’m dating someone who is the same age as my son. Do you advise that I just chalk this up as a fling and move on, or do I try to make it work, and if so, how?

Wendy: Whether he be 30 years your junior, 30 years older or your age, there’s no telling how long it can last.  Yes, it’s not a common pairing and there will be whispers (and maybe a few shouts) but all relationships have unwanted opinions to manage.  If you are enjoying this relationship, keep enjoying it.  Time will tell whether the two of you can weather this coupling.  It sounds like you have a clear idea of what will be challenging. Keep your eyes and your communication wide open and see what will be.

Q: My wife and I have been married for almost 7 years now. We’re happy, or as happy as you can be after seven years anyway, and have finally decided that it’s time to have a child. With that understanding, my wife came to me the other day and revealed that she had been propositioned for sex by a colleague of hers. She basically stated to me that this was an “itch” she would like to scratch before we had a child and she was fully in “unselfish” mode for the rest of her life- whatever that means. She told me that once it’s over, it’s over, however I’m not really sure what to do about it. On one hand I’m like, “No way!” But, on the other I’m thinking what if she doesn’t scratch it and it continues to bug her long after we’ve had our child? This is a real life 7 year itch!

Wendy:Let me start by dispelling a myth that seems to exist in at least your wife’s mind:  a desire to have sex with someone else isn’t a simple itch. In addition, children do not necessarily turn you into faithful, dedicated lifetime partners. There is absolutely no way she, or you, can predict with certainty that her tryst will be over once she’s gone for a roll or ten.  People have a funny way of getting attached to others that they share intimacies with, both physical and emotional.  Having said that, I also want to applaud you both for being so open with each other.  Many people have these same desires but keep them hidden for fear that it will cause irreparable harm to their partners. This is an opportunity to talk about your relationship and maybe address some things.  A quickie here and there with someone new is not the right salve for that particular itch.  Explore it more with your wife.  Is there any discussion about you having a desire to seek something outside of your marriage?  Is it a quid pro quo? It may seem scary, but these discussions are good for relationships if there is honesty and safety.  Spend a little time scratching her back while she scratches yours.

Q:I’m a 22 year old recent college graduate. My girlfriend and I have been together since High School, but it looks like we’ll be split apart for the next couple of years as she is doing a mission with the Peace Corps. I understand the whole thing about, “having my entire life before me,” and that you shouldn’t put your life on hold for someone, but I really love her and I want to marry her one day. She’s told me that she thinks that we should end things, just while she’s gone, and let life unfold as it will because it’s not fair to either one of us to “wait” for the other. “Whatever will be, will be.” I’m scared to let her go because I’m afraid that I’ll lose her. I’ve even thought about trying to join the Peace Corps myself so that we could be together. She’s the only person I’ve ever been with, and I feel the only person I want to be with. Shouldn’t I do whatever it takes to be with her?

Wendy: No, you shouldn’t do whatever it takes to be with her.  She has very graciously given you the gift of potential new experiences.  I believe you when you say that you love her and you have no interest in being with anyone else.  You have options.  Living a celibate life until her return is an option.  I don’t recommend it, but it is an option.  On the other hand, I don’t believe you when you say “I get it that I have my entire life before me.”  You can’t possibly understand that concept until you live an entire life (or most of one) and you can look back on your life.  That’s okay.  You’re not supposed to get it until later.  Let me tell you this one truth, you are capable of loving more than one person in your life.  She has told you what she wants and you have shared your desires with her.  Do the best that you can do for yourself by giving yourself the opportunity to have new experiences, whether they be in love, travel, education, volunteer work, careers or any or all of the above.  Who knows, at the end of this time apart, life will unfold and you may find yourself wanting something of a completely different flavor.
Wendy_PianoWendy Olsen is a Marriage & Family Therapist, specializing in Sex Therapy. You can find more of her advice at