Counselors Roy Fisher and Liz Covey answer readers’ questions for South Seattle Emerald’s “Ask A Therapist.” Have a question about a relationship? Wondering about the struggles of being a parent? Others likely have the same questions and Covey and Fisher bring years of professional experience to provide their insights.
In this article, Roy Fisher addresses a reader’s question regarding conflicts with their partner, and their partner’s perception of their behavior.
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My girlfriend tells me that I’m “in a rage” when we are fighting, even though I would never hurt her or anything like that. I yell sometimes, but so does she. She says it’s a huge problem and I’m afraid we might break up because of this. How do I know if she’s right, or if it’s just her being sensitive? The way I grew up was rough, and she didn’t have it so bad, so maybe she just can’t handle anyone being upset. I’m not sure what to do because all we do is fight about who is right, making it all the more likely we will break up.